Reading through The Education of a Flatlander has been so much fun, because it's a chronicle of raising my children, and it's as vivid as any photo album. As my boys move through their gangly and reticent teen years, and I'm left without any cuddly, pudgy babies, I've particularly loved reading these reminders of what our days used to look like. Much of it is about chickens and gardening and root cellars, but this one has just the sparkle I needed on this gray day.
Have a great holiday, everyone.
A Day in the Life
With all due respect to the Beatles, my day hardly ever starts
with a comb across my head, but I do have to worry about getting my fifth
grader Benjamin out to the bus in seconds flat.
The low winter light has Ben convinced I’m waking him in the
middle of the night just for chuckles. As I pull clothes out of his dresser and
kick a path through the debris on the floor of his bedroom, I stress that I
have no ulterior motive, no reason to lie, especially when his reluctant
awakenings are so often paired with a foul mood. He insists on seeking out a
second opinion on the hour at the Official U.S. Time web site. We then go
through our daily ritual. He stomps back upstairs after I inform him that the
clothing he’s worn for two days straight will not do for a third, and I admit
that yes, I am the meanest mother in the world for forcing him to wear clean
clothes.
“Ben, nine minutes until you have to be outside.”
Nothing. Six-year-old Finnegan helpfully offers that he does
not think Ben heard me and that maybe I should speak “more louder.”
More louder it is.
“BEN!”
Two minutes later, peanut butter sandwich in hand, Ben
wiggles into his snowsuit, balaclava, hat, gloves, and boots, while I toss lunch
into his backpack. As the bus rolls down the hill, I push him out the mudroom
door with a “Have a good day! I love you! RUN!”
The neighbor waves the bus down for Ben and he makes it with
a second to spare.
Turning back toward the kitchen and my waiting coffee,
Finnegan runs in from the playroom holding two empty vials of glitter.
“Mommy! Come see this! You won’t BELIEVE it!”
He proudly leads me out of the kitchen by the hand. The
playroom looks like Studio 54 on a Sunday morning. The whole room sparkles
under a finely distributed layer of gold, silver and green glitter. The
television, with its crackling static charge, appears swathed in gold lamé. The
dogs twinkle like disco balls as they roam about in the bright sunlight.
I open my mouth to complain, but Finnegan proclaims, “Our
house is so sparkly and pretty!”
And I have to admit, it is sort of pretty.
Time for a field trip.
Finn and I drive up to Robie Farms in Piermont for milk,
cream, cheese, eggs, cider and Betty Sue Robie’s fresh cinnamon donuts. On the
way home, we stop by Veracka’s Auto Repair for a new windshield wiper, and hit
the Lyme Country Store for tonight’s pizza supplies. A local farmer who is
working to create Lyme’s first organic dairy is at the store, so I get to hang
out and talk farming for a while. Last stop, Recordridge Farm for some venison
loin and steaks, paid for with cash tucked under the scale next to the cooler.
The glitter has not been cleaned up by the housecleaning
fairies by the time we return, so I spend about an hour sucking up as much of
it as I can with the vacuum cleaner.
Upon returning home, Ben looks around and asked,
“Why is it so sparkly in here?”
When I told him what Finn had done that morning, he says he
thinks we should keep the playroom that way, that he likes it.
“It’s pretty,” Ben proclaimed.
From my perspective, it’s all upside – the remaining glitter
can be deemed deliberate decorating strategy rather than a byproduct of
negligent housekeeping.
I still have not written a word all day, so I allow the kids
to watch a DVD while I get some Mommy time. As usual, Ben slams the playroom
doors before selecting a movie. He is militant about this playroom door issue.
They must be closed if a movie is in progress because he likes total silence.
If I open them, even for an instant, he hits pause with the remote. This is the
same kid who can read a book while simultaneously listening to a completely
different audio book.
The dogs head out to romp in the snow with the new puppy
next door, and I warm up the coffee I forgot to drink an hour before. The paper
sits on the counter, but I have to return it to the Clarks paper box according
to our finely tuned subscription-sharing arrangement. So, sadly, I never did
read the news today. Oh boy.
"...and I admit that yes, I am the meanest mother in the world for forcing him to wear clean clothes."
ReplyDeleteMost look back with a nostalgic fondness on many of the things that caused us to stomp back upstairs as a child. With age, a mom's insistence on wearing reasonably clean school attire or being forced towards a timely rendezvous with a school bus are seen in a new light: illuminated with the benefit of experience and clarity of hindsight. A parental decree often seemed a pointless, painful or just plain silly directive to be complied with. Period. We were too young, and lacked the foresight, to see the lesson being taught. With time, they become lessons fondly remembered and gladly taught. None of these lessons seem to qualify anyone for the Meanest Mother in the World award. "...and I admit that yes, I am the meanest mother in the world for forcing him to wear clean clothes."
Most look back with a nostalgic fondness on many of the things that caused us to stomp back upstairs as a child. With age, a mom's insistence on wearing reasonably clean school attire or being forced towards a timely rendezvous with a school bus are seen in a new light: illuminated with the benefit of experience and clarity of hindsight. A parental decree often seemed a pointless, painful or just plain silly directive to be complied with. Period. We were too young to see the lesson being taught. With time, they often become lessons fondly remembered and gladly passed on. None of those lessons seem to qualify for the Meanest Mother in the World award.
The posting of a picture--for the whole world to see--of young man with only underwear to cover his baculum would have put you in the running for Honorable Mention in the MMW nominations of yesteryear. It will only be with the passage of our now atomically measured time, benefit of the new collective social experience and clarity of our now digital hindsight that we will find the answer to the age old question: "What was my mother thinking when she showed that picture to my new girlfriend?!" However...the posting of a picture--for the whole world to see--of young man with only underwear to cover his baculum would have put you in the running for an Honorable Mention in the MMW nominations of yesteryear. It will only be with the passage of our now atomically measured time, benefit of the new collective "social" experience and clarity of our now digitally recorded hindsight that we will find the answer to the age old question: "What was my mother thinking when she showed that picture to my new girlfriend?!"